Exes and Oh's.

There's an alarming, booming question one is faced with after a reality-shattering break-up:
How does one sufficiently deal with an ex?

Sure, you go your separate ways, take different journeys in life but somehow, there's always some unfinished business. Forgotten clothes, CDs, unwanted memorabilia neither one of you know what to do with.

Well obviously, these situations should be handled with as much grace, maturity, and patience one can muster. But, what happens when your ex seems to go out of his way to destruct these considerations?
At 22, I expect at the very least a reciprocation of these ideas. How do you coax a man you were once in love with, planned a future with to be civil? It all just feels like a merry-go-round. You turn and turn and turn until someone gets queasy and gives up. Is it a man's ego that keeps him at bay or an immediate Berlin Wall he builds when you tell him it's over?

Maybe it isn't solely a male reaction. Maybe it's just a human defense. Isn't it better to promptly balance the uneasy situation? Then there would be no need for a defense or an offense.

Maybe the best plan of action is no plan of action, to remain civil regardless of the hoops you're forced to jump through.
I guess the best method is to rely on your "Oh, Jesus", "Oh, boy", and "Oh, God" and laugh your way through it.